VIRTUAL THERAPY FOR GRIEF, ANXIETY & OVERTHINKING IN NJ.
Nobody thinks to call a perennial resilient while it's still dormant.
You've been weathering something most people don't even notice is hard. Here we can call a loss a loss, while I stay with you through the slow work of growing back to yourself.
For grief that outlasted everyone's patience but yours • THERAPY FOR OVERTHINKERS
Grief changes who you are.
It should be treated that way.
Most folks treat it as a symptom that naturally dissipates with time. It’s not always that simple, and grief often shows up alongside anxiety, identity shifts, and overthinking. These emotions hold the power to completely rearrange you. They move into the space when anything you counted on is suddenly gone - whether that’s a version of yourself, a belief you were raised on, or a future you’d already planned in your head.
This practice was built for the people managing these feelings, and the ones who know it doesn’t always have to feel so heavy.
what's growing under the surface
Change is hard, and these feelings have been taking root for a long time.
THE LOSS THAT DOESN'T COUNT
A sibling. A friendship that faded out. A parent who’s alive, but can’t give you what you need. Nobody sent a casserole, but it doesn’t mean you aren’t allowed to grieve it. (You are.)
THE FAITH YOU'RE DECONSTRUCTING
You stepped back from what you were raised to believe, and you don’t regret it. You also didn’t expect to miss parts of it, or feel the distance from your community so intensely.
THE EXPECTATIONS YOU INHERITED
You were told exactly who to be for a long time. Now you’ve learned to think for yourself, and so much of your new self clashes with the worldview that got you here.
THE DISTANCE YOU DIDN'T WANT
You can love your family, honor where you come from, need space from both, and still feel the loss of it. Two things can be true at once, and you’re tired of being asked to pick one.
The people I work with have a few things in common.
They’re usually becoming someone they are proud to be, that their upbringing didn’t plan for. They feel the cultural and spiritual weight of that growth, and they want a therapist who is reachable outside of office hours, and acknowledges the grief that society expects to go unnoticed.
Hi, call me HJ
I’m the therapist who will laugh with you in the middle of something awful, because grief hands you membership to a club you never asked to join, and sometimes gallows humor is the only way through. I deconstructed an evangelical upbringing, so the reformulating-your-whole-framework thing isn’t theoretical to me.
I garden wildly on purpose, trusting the outcome every time, and it’s genuinely thrilling when my chaos can produce something beautiful (or edible). I believe you can honor where you came from and still refuse to live there full-time.
the credentials that guide my work
I’m a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in New Jersey. I entered this field in 2011, and spent over a decade in community mental health and addiction care before starting my private practice. I’m EMDR-trained and hold a Certified Advanced Grief Counseling Specialist (CAGCS) Certification. I’m culturally attuned, neuro- and queer-affirming, and allergic to therapy jargon.
Working together.
I don’t do therapy packages or tight turn-arounds, and have built my practice around a small, deliberate caseload so the people I work with get the depth and access that makes space for real impact.
Individual Therapy
$200 / 45 min
(curated care - see below)
For the overthinkers experiencing grief, identity shifts, anxiety, and the exhaustion of hiding those feelings in your day-to-day. We work together at a pace you would benefit from, not the structure an insurance company will allow.
Clinical Supervision
Rates for individual clinical supervision available on request.
Supervision for Licensed Social Workers working toward clinical licensure who want a supervisor who remembers your cases without a recap, clocks your working style and nurtures it, and believes cultural nuance has a place in therapy.
Educational Eco Systems
This is available
upon request.
Trauma-informed, strengths-based, and neurodiversity affirming practice around mental health, emotional regulation and development, and learning. Collaborative support for those reimagining education outside the limits of traditional systems.
Curated Care
Included with individual therapy / not for emergencies.
I don’t believe that therapeutic support should disappear when our session ends. My clients have continued access to me throughout the week, so the stuff that comes up while life is happening doesn’t have to wait until our next session to matter. This is not a replacement for our time together, it’s a continuation of the care you deserve.
Support where ever you actually are.
Therapy services happen virtually, over a secure video platform, anywhere in New Jersey.
This means that therapy can fit into your life without a commute, and you can do the hard work from a room where you’re most comfortable.
short reads for the space between sessions
The Overthinkers Notebook
Field notes on grief, identity, and the life-long work of becoming yourself.
